The Ceremony

A massive stone structure with a moat and drawbridge, dramatic turrets, cathedral ceilings, and wrought-iron chandeliers, Castle McCulloch is an hour-and-a-half drive from Raleigh, where Michelle and Alex live. The ceremony was uniquely ours, says Alex. Michelle and I wrote our own vows, borrowing inspiration and text from a variety of sources. They relied heavily on the poetic language and ideas highlighted in Anam Cara, by John O'Donohue. Set to Celtic music, the ceremony culminated with a moving hand fasting ritual. Here, the officiant bound the couple's right and left hands together with cord to symbolize the marriage bond. Michelle and Alex also said vows to their children, affirming their unconditional love for them.